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What is the concept of marriage? As young women growing up we dream of finding our prince charming and getting married. This has been the myth since the beginning of time.

Marriage is a relationship between individuals which has formed the foundation for most families according to Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. In the early years marriage was the center of a loving and lasting relationship for a man and a woman. It was a mountain of a big deal. When you got married it was like celebrating and a party to bless the reunion for two very in love people. Marriage was the bomb and then some.

I’m a romance reader and I believe in finding the right man and living happily ever after. I look and search for my soul mate. I know he’s right around the corner, and when God is ready for me to have him, then the search will be worth it.

I was married at eighteen years of age, and I have to admit I was still a baby at heart. I had no idea what was going on in the world. I was just smitten with my husband and wanted the fairy tale dream of being married.

He swept me off my feet in everyway possible, and I was so lucky and blessed to have found this man. Little did I know that it takes more than love to sustain a marriage? Love is the center of a being, and it prevents you from divorcing so fast. I think love conquers all obstacles in our path, but it doesn’t pay the rent or the mortgage.

I was thrilled when I got married because I was still living in my fairy tale in the land of fantasy. I didn’t know what marriage was about or the mechanics of it. My husband was only three years older than me, so he was still wet behind the ears too. We celebrated our first couple of years still on the honeymoon that we never had, basking in the after glow of our love for each other. It was heaven and then some.

We had a ball getting to know each other. The next three years we moved onto the basic ingredient of our marriage and this is where the reality slowly stomped over our hearts. We begin to see that our personalities were getting on each other nerves, and we fought more than we made love.

I was a Taurus and he was a Gemini, so I couldn’t figure out what personality he would be in until the morning. Was he a Dr. Jekyll or a Mr. Hyde? Mr. Hyde was evil, loud and with a difficult personality, so I liked it when he was Dr. Jekyll. I loved the process of being married. I was also in accordance with the rules and regulations of the marriage syndrome, so I wasn’t about to give up on my marriage. I had to take my husband for better and for worse, and he had to take me the same way.

Marriage is a compromise, and a witness to being in love. We welcomed a daughter to our family and it brought us closer, but we had our own individualities, and that lasted for ten years; divorce was on the horizon, also. It was time to be alone. The love wasn’t enough to sustain our marriage.

As a divorce woman I missed being married, and envy some of the couples who have been married for eleven and forty years. My parents were married for thirty years when my mother passed away. If I ever tried marriage again, this time I’d be a little knowledgeable and I’ll understand the rules and regulations of being married. I know the scope of being with someone and putting up with their faults. I know I have plenty of faults, and if someone is willing to put up with me, then I should give them an academy award and a million dollars.

The perks of being married are:

1. You truly love someone and you literally want to spend the duration of your life with him/her.

2. Someone loves you.

3. You don’t have to worry about dating.

4. You have the gorgeous ring.

5. You have someone to talk to, listen to, and go places with, and do things with.

6. You can make love all you want.

7. You are a couple.

8. You’re no longer single.

The perks of not being married:

1. You are single with no man.

2. The dating scene is a nightmare waiting to happen.

3. You can’t trust men.

4. Making love is tested, and protection is the name of the game.

5. Living together is a prospect.

6. Love and romance is difficult to find.

7. That engagement/wedding ring that you had been waiting for at least for two to five years has yet to make an appearance on your ring finger.

If I had to make a choice between being married and single; at this point in my life, I like being single because I don’t want to be bothered with anyone. I know myself, and it’s best that I live with myself. I’m at the age where I just don’t trust a man, and I just don’t want to be bothered.

On the other hand I miss love and romance, and just being with someone. I want the ball and the chain and run with it. I want to be a couple. Will I get married again? I don’t think so, but the fairy tale is the concept of what we think marriage is. When we come down to earth and realize that marriage is real life, then we are awakened by a thunderstorm of reality. Let’s get out of fantasy land because the real world is a bitch!

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Why is it that so many people believe that they don’t have time
or take the initiative to be romantic? Maybe most people don’t
believe that they are creative enough to be romantic. Everyone
is creative! The definition of being creative is having the
ability or power to create. The word create offers a much
broader definition than most people accept when it comes to the
process of being able to come up with something original or
simply well thought out.

Gifts that are considered to be traditionally romantic like
candy and flowers are wonderful, but sometimes you need
something that goes one step further. If your spouse enjoys
flowers, you don’t have to settle for roses because they can
sometimes become unexciting after a while! Present him or her
with something completely original such as a daisy or another
flower where petals can be counted. Ask him or her to play the
childhood game of ‘they love me, they love me not’ and watch
them pluck the petals as they go. However, don’t allow for the
possibility of him or her arriving at the ‘they love me not’.
Count the petals before you present the flower to your spouse
and trim it so that there is an odd number of petals for the
right outcome!

Arts and crafts used to be a fun break from the monotony of the
school day, but believe it or not, it will come in handy when it
comes to creative romantic gestures. Instead of promising that
you will love him or her forever, show them. Take a piece of
paper, ribbon or other material you choose and write “I love
you” on both sides from end to end. Twist the paper 180 degrees
and connect both ends of the paper until you have mad what looks
like the figure eight. Tape or glue to ends together. You can
present your love with a symbol that shows them your love for
them is an endless love.

Creativity comes in many different forms! Being creative can
mean creating an atmosphere. If you want to plan the ultimate
romantic evening but funds are low or you simply don’t want to
have to leave the house, shut down the electricity and imitate a
power outage (it’s up to you whether or not you tell him or
her!). You won’t have any distractions or heat, so it is up to
both of you to keep the other warm and entertain each other.

Maybe romance is on your mind, but he or she is going out of
town. Did you know that people on airplanes are typically
hopeless romantics? Any flight attendant would be more than
happy to make sure that your spouse receives a special present
after the flight has left the ground. Simply approach a
crewmember after he or she boards the plane and they are usually
more than happy to oblige a hopeless romantic like you! (You
might want to make sure that the gift is unwrapped or keep it to
a single rose due to heightened security.)

Creativity doesn’t have to come in the form of gifts every
single time. Gestures like getting up and dancing with your
spouse when a special song comes on the radio is quite creative
and incredibly romantic! Whenever the mood strikes you, allow
your creative juices to flow!

Organizing a wedding can be a tense situation. There are so many tasks to complete and so many people to organize that it’s a wonder that so many of them get off without a hitch. What can help in these activities is a wedding planner. This is essentially an individual who takes charge of the wedding plans and ensures that everything goes smoothly. There are people who believe that a wedding planner is essential to a wedding’s success. There are people at the other end of the spectrum who believe that a wedding planner is unnecessary. Which is true for your wedding? The answer to this question depends on your particular situation.

A wedding planner is someone who has experience with organizing weddings. A wedding planner is ideally someone with insight into weddings. It is for these reasons that people often make the decision to use a wedding planner. Are you or someone in your family a detail-oriented person? While it is difficult to substitute the experience of a professional wedding planner with someone who can keep things organized, it is a good start. There are so many resources available on weddings that an organized individual who you know personally can become your wedding planner.

A wedding planner is not simply a great organizer. A wedding planner actually wears many different hats. A wedding planner may oversee your wedding budget to make sure it remains on track. They are also buffers so that when tense or stressful situations occur they can take care of them without going to pieces.

Although weddings are steeped in tradition, couples often seek to add their own flair to the ceremony. Knowing how far to go without turning your ceremony into something less than special is something that is not always easy to do. An advantage of using a wedding planner is that the individual can offer creative suggestions to help keep everything in the wedding balanced. Since being a wedding planner usually means an individual runs in wedding circles, there’s a chance that the wedding planner may be able to use their connections to get you specials on some of your wedding planning needs.

Even without hiring a wedding planner, wedding can be expensive. When you consider that the average wedding costs thousands of dollars, you can understand how hiring a wedding planner who makes upwards of $2000 for a single wedding is sometimes an idea that is never realized. If your budget is small and your wedding needs require that you hire a wedding planner, you might consider a wedding planner with less experience. If you choose this route, just make sure the wedding planner is someone who will benefit your wedding.

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