5 Ways to Transform Your Struggles Into Victories

Filed under:Psychology Tips — posted on October 13, 2008 @ 5:36 pm

Have you read the famous quote, “Every struggle is a victory”? It was stated by an extraordinary person who overcome great challneges and achieved greatness - her name was Helen Keller.

In this brief article we will explore 5 key aspects
for turning your Struggles into Victories. These pointer’s have
been scientifically validated by Dr Paul G Stoltz in his book: “Adversity Quotient”.

1. Manage your Emotions

The first step to dealing with a challenge is to manage your
emotions. In challenging times we often feel a sense of
overwhelm, helplessness or a wide range of other emotions. We
need to manage these emotions, in order for us to be able to
think clearly about the situation.

You can manage your emotions in a few ways. You could distract
yourself until you regain your composure, you could change your
environment, do some exercise, listen to soothing music, eat hot
foods, take a nice relaxing bath or help someone else.

2. Get the Facts

What happened? What caused this situation? Which part was caused
by me, and which part was caused by others? What options exist?
How have other people in similar situations, solved similar
problems? What could I do to improve things, even if it only
makes a small difference? Information is key to making right
choices.

3. Do something to Gain at least a little Control

Do something, however small to gain at least some control over
the situation. You can ask yourself: What could I do to gain
even a little control over this situation? What little thing
could I do to influence this situation? Then do it!

4. Do something to Limit the Reach

No matter how bad a situation may appear, there is almost always
a way to limit its impact. Napolean Hill said, “In every
adversity lies the seed of equal, or even greater benefit.” Even
the worst situations, can be turned to good, all you need to do
is wonder about, how can this situation be used to my advantage?
How can I limit the reach of this situation? How can I limit how
long this situation needs to endure?

When you have these answers take decisive action. Taking action
fills you with hope and a sense that you can do something about
the situation.

5. Take it One Step at a Time

The final principle of dealing with challenges is to take it one
step at a time. Helen Keller who lost both her sight and her
hearing while still a very young child, used this principle to
great affect. She completed a university degree, learnt several
languages including classical Greek, became a world famous
author and was called, “The Greatest Woman of our Age”, by
Winston Churchill. Whilst completing her university degree and
facing almost unbelievable obstacles, she would simply continue.

She would fight one battle at a time, and slowly but surely get
through the challenge. Her life attests to the power of this
approach. In a similar way take it one day at a time, strive to
do at least one thing every day, no matter how small and you
will notice your situation change.

Conclusion

Dr Paul G Scholtz said, “Adversity fuels greatness.” As you
think about this article, you may begin to wonder how you can
apply these principles to your own life. You may wonder how you
can turn your own obstacles into victories. You may wonder what
one little thing you can do to gain some control over your
situation, and grow and develop, and do something great,
something really important, because deep down inside every
single one of us knows, that we are meant to fulfil a unique and
wonderful destiny.

Destin Lucas is an internationally-recognized writer, speaker and co-founder of Dawning Truth - a breakthrough success modeling program for dramatically accelerating your personal development. If you want to achieve greatness visit http://www.greatnesscircle.com

Major Depression and Its Serious Complications

Filed under:Psychology Tips — posted on @ 2:48 pm

When suffering from clinical depression, people have different ways of confronting it. Some acknowledge it, face it just like any problem, and seek help. Some ignore it as if it doesn’t exist. And others simply accept that it’s there but they don’t do anything about it. In fact, they don’t even ask for help.

Those who ignore and don’t do anything run the risk of developing the serious complications of depression. Like any medical disorder, untreated clinical depression has its hazards.

What are some of the complications of clinical depression? How serious are they?

Suicidality

Without treatment, some depressed individuals feel hopeless, helpless, and worthless. Subsequently, thoughts about death occur. They sometimes feel that they are better off dead than alive. As the illness worsens, suicidal thoughts and behavior gradually ensue.

Homicidal Behavior

Although rare, homicidal behavior can happen to someone with significant level of depression. In fact, a few high profile cases in the media had point to some cases of clinical depression and homicide. Severe depression can result in impaired judgment, making these depressed individuals vulnerable to cause harm.

Psychosis

Clinical depression likewise causes disturbances in perception and thinking. Some individuals with severe depression experience auditory hallucinations (”hearing voices”) and delusions (false fixed beliefs). Hallucinations can manifest as inappropriate commands telling the person to do certain things such as to harm oneself or others. Delusions can range from suspiciousness to bizarre beliefs such as the thought that the person is the “Anointed One.”

Functional Impairment

It’s very common for depressed individuals to develop lack of energy and loss of interest to do their usual activities. These individuals can hardly do their usual chores, prefer to isolate themselves from everyone, and stay in bed the whole day. Work absences, financial problems, and job losses may be the inevitable end result.

Relationship Problems

Due to ongoing behavioral and thought disturbances, some family members don’t understand what is going on. Fights, ridicule, name-calling, and arguments between spouses or among family members can happen. As the relationship becomes more strained, the individual becomes more distant from friends and relatives. It is not uncommon to see unsupportive spouses, parents, and children during these difficult times.

In summary, clinical depression has fatal consequences. Ignoring it is too risky. Doing nothing about it is a grave mistake. Early recognition and treatment is the only way to prevent its unwanted complications.

Copyright © 2005. Dr. Michael G. Rayel - author (First Aid to Mental Illness-Finalist, Reader’s Preference Choice Award 2002) psychiatrist, and inventor of Oikos Game: An Emotional Intelligence or EQ Game. For more information, visit http://www.oikosgame.com and http://www.soardime.com